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Doing the Inner Work

By Pam DeLise

Do you become frustrated when you are doing your inner work?  Perhaps you’ve been reading the latest books on self-growth or listening to podcasts on healing your life, or practicing mindfulness with the goal of improving your life. We all want to be happy and live fulfilling lives. So why do most people give up? …

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The Two Sides of You

By Pam DeLise

I came across these pictures of me from a trip to Canada when we were kids.  I was struck by these very different images of myself. I recognize the little girl on the left. She’s the demure, good girl clutching her purse.  (Anyone who knows me, knows I love a good purse!). I completely identify…

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Why Caring For Self Isn’t Selfish

By Pam DeLise

I’m on my way to an exercise class.  I’m driving along and feeling good about myself. I’ve made a commitment to attend class regularly. I’ve worked it into my schedule and fit it into my budget. More importantly I’ve made a commitment to myself to improve my health.  Yup I feel good! So what went…

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Do You Feel Invisible?

By Pam DeLise

Have you ever felt invisible? I have and it caught me by surprise. I’m on the board of an organization. We interact over email, have virtual meetings and a few in person meetings.  We “know” one another from our “roles” but don’t necessarily know the “person” behind the role. Following one of our virtual meetings…

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Moving Creates Space for Growth

By Pam DeLise

Have you moved a lot or stayed in one place? I’ve moved 10 times in the last 23 years.  Being analytical at heart, I calculated that’s an average moving rate of every 2.3 years.  Imagine…that’s packing, unpacking and setting up a new home about every 2 years.  As I got ready to move yet again…

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Release the Mental Pressure

By Pam DeLise

What was it that Ben Franklin said? “…but in this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.” That’s how I felt about annual performance reviews.  You could set your calendar by them. Years later, one really stands out for me. I was sitting outside my boss’ office waiting to get called in.  I…

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When the GOLD Medal Isn’t Enough

By Pam DeLise

I was so inspired by seventeen year old snowboarding phenom, Chloe Kim. She was interviewed at the 2018 Winter Olympics after winning her first Gold Medal.  She was asked what freedom felt like when she took her last run knowing she had already won the Gold Medal. She said she wouldn’t be satisfied with the…

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Force of Habit

By Pam DeLise

I put my purse on the same chair, in the same spot, at my kitchen table.  I always know where to find it.  I don’t have to search for it or think about where I put it last.  I never remember putting it in its “spot” or even think about where it is when I…

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Do the Math!

By Pam DeLise

I recently went on a weekend retreat.  I treasure these opportunities because they give me the chance to break free from my routine, step back from life and make space for something new.  (Yup that’s me in the pic after walking the labyrinth!) I find it easier to slow my pace – walking, eating, talking,…

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Fear Loves Procrastination!

By Pam DeLise

“Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” Benjamin Franklin Of course you know what good ole Ben is referring to right?  Procrastination. I’ve always been curious as to why I put certain things off, delay, or find a reason not to do something.  It’s interesting because many of these “things” are important…

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Leave Self-Doubt on the Sidelines!

By Pam DeLise

Do you hold yourself back from happiness, peace and freedom?  You’ve heard it. That little gremlin voice in your ear whispering messages of self-doubt.  When you listen – they get louder and more frequent.  Overpowering you so much that you find yourself withdrawing into fear. Self-doubt takes over like this: We ask our friends or…

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Can You Outsmart the Universe?

By Pam DeLise

“Don’t fight the fearful thoughts…Just match each one with an affirmative thought that brings you more peace.” Martha Beck I was at a friend’s home; newly built with breathtaking water views in every direction.  I was focused on all the beauty.  Until, that is, I started to catch a theme as she was giving us…

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